Child of a lesser God

Saturday, 15 June 2019

Care to Love or Love to Care that is the question.

Love hurts
Love scars
Love wounds and marks
Any heart not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain

I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a flame, it burns you when it's hot

I know it isn't true I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie made to make you blue
Love hurts
Ooh love hurts

~ Nazareth (lyrics taken the song Love Hurts)

LOVE

"The forest was shrinking, but the trees kept voting for the axe because its handle was made of wood and they thought it was one of them.".. an apt quote for love, as the wise ones have said love is blind.

Love is rooted in our desires...
The word love as per the Oxford Dictionary has the following origin...Old English lufu, of Germanic origin; from an Indo-European root shared by Sanskrit lubhyati ‘desires’, Latin libet ‘it is pleasing’, libido ‘desire’, also by leave and lief.....Desires the word love is carnal and rooted in our desires, our desires make us selfish and covetous.

Science of Love...
Love is an emotion and like all emotions are stored in the limbic system of our brains. The limbic system or the mid-region of our brain evolved millions of years ago and helped us in one critical region -survival of the race...survival of the fittest.. mandatory care of the people you love so that they survive and you survive.

The effect of Love ...

Love translates the mind into, I choose you over others. It is self-deprecating too, as you tend to get vulnerable in order to get the one you love. Love divides humanity. And makes you do foolish things in its name. It is said that "Romeo and Juliet" was written by Shakespeare (Sir Francis Bacon) as tragedy waiting to happen if you fall in love and stay in love. Love makes you hate others, give up your rational thinking, sacrifice expectations, but most of all it places an entity in your mind which is the root cause of deep-seated sadness... EXPECTATIONS

The expectations that Love brings...

You do things to expect things to be done to you. Thus handing your wellness remote to the opposite person when it should have been in your hands in the first place. With love, your happiness turns extrinsic, dependent...it's true when they say in love you give your heart away...hence you turn heartless and in compassionate towards others you don't love and hence you don't care. e.g. If you love your child, you end up desiring the way they must shape up in life...be a doctor, an engineer etc (expectations) and when they don't it hurts.

Love oscillates on a continuum towards Hate...

Love is the breeding ground for hate. (Read Stockholm Syndrome on Wikipedia) In a lot of scenarios, people who hate each other tend to fall in love with each other (makes no sense at all). People with whom you fall in love with the first sight you end up hating them post a break-up. It's a continuum...love on one side and hate on the other with care in between. We start life experiencing care, then as we oscillate towards love we simultaneously oscillate towards hate The rise of rapes and violence is because people have stopped caring about others & indulging in activities they love, seeking self-pleasure over care for others. (Desires and giving into them)

Love makes you irrational...

Love harbors loathe and lust. In the 18th century, Love was seen as a disease that takes over your mind and causes you to act irrationality. Many people have committed external acts like murders, robbery, genocide in the name of love and internal acts like suicide, depression and carry on living with a broken heart as the person they loved did not handle it with CARE. Love makes you reckless...your love for speeding reduces the amount of care you have for others and can endanger their lives and yours. Your love for food can push you into a state of self satiation than will kill you eventually.. your love for achievement will make you stop caring about the things you have achieved in the past or relationships you have built and enforce neglect towards them all while your focusing on your need to fulfill your love for challenges.

Media milking the Love effect...
The media too is to be blamed. Love yourself is a serious disease. With social media addicts your yearning for love is not with one person it's with your followers ...jeez that's a lot of expectations... Then with every picture that you post, you are more concerned with the likes you did not get as opposed to the ones you got...and Facebook introduced the love sign too..so imagine your followers are too being condition to love, over like.

Love is a substance, a drug...

Love is an aphrodisiac, a potent substance that takes over you and enslaves you if not handled well. Those in its grasp yearn for its hallucinations and move on from relationship to relationship never satisfied as the quantity of intake diminishes. Love is also used as a potent agent by the wicked to take advantage of the naive and gullible. How many men and women have lost their lives sacrificing everything for the one they love, only to realize they were just being played with.

Why do we need love...

The purpose of love, in its truest form is unconditional. This unconditional love exists in the heart of a mother towards a child. The purpose is to ensure that the child survives the initial years. The mother would do anything, including sacrificing her sleep and hunger pangs to ensure that the child is healthy and happy.

CARE

Care is a higher form of Love without expectations. Care is a soothing term. When you visualize care, a mother and infant come to mind or a child taking care of his/her ageing parents comes to mind. Unfortunately, love has care as it's a slave. It's I love you hence I will take care of you even though the relationship is toxic with violence and abuse.

The equilibrium of Care...

Look at nature, it cares about each & every flora and fauna and hence there is an equilibrium that enables all life to thrive. In Joint families, care was seen in abundance and hence your heart grew to accommodate and respect many in place of one or two people who you loved.

Care as a foundational value

Earlier companies had a foundation of care and the promoters cared about giving people a decent life. Hence employees returned the care with loyalty and stuck in a place for a long time. Once we feel cared for we stick around and do things without expectations. Nowadays companies are founded on the basis of competitiveness - love for profits and quick money. Hence they attract talent who love themselves (ambitious), want more reward, recognition & promotion in a short time. As a result, self-love has killed care and loyalty. Thus there are scams on one end (I don't care about the company) while layoffs on the other (I don't care about the employees). If companies cared about the society, they would have worked together to ensure optimum utilization of resources, but their love for profits have super-ceded care in most cases, thus resulting in exploitation of resources and labor.

Love gives you wings, Care gives you roots...
Love has mobility, that is it is not constant and changes from people centred desires to materialism never settling down. Care has deeper roots and is generally grounded in people, nature, and relationships. Analyze your life or the lives of others who do things in the name of love vs those who do things in the name of care.. you will notice people who care and are compassionate taking care of stray animals, working in orphanages and old age homes. These are people whose hearts are with them and whose hearts have grown to fit a lot of others inside.

care Care CARE...
That's the trump card in the suit of emotions. Care is a wider universal emotion that we are born with. Naked and vulnerable a mother cares for us much before she loves us. When you care, you do so selflessly and you grow as a person. You care about your own and others with equal measure. e.g. When you have a choice to help a person, but you choose not to, it is generally due to the bias arising out of love - for your own people vs outsiders, or love for your own religion vs others religion, love for your own caste vs others or even love for your own country vs others... The bias slices and dices your heart to function well below its capacity and restricting its growth and breeds intolerance.

Science of CARE...
I believe, Care is rooted in the neocortex - the upper brain that developed a few thousands of years ago to ensure we take care of each other and to supersede the limbic influence. Neocortex is a slower brain and at times you will realize we end up hurting each other due to our limbic infleunce (faster emotional brain) and then regret what we have done and then apologize due to our neocortex influence (slower brain).

Care endures without expectation...

A lot of marriages when love turns to hate over the years survive due to the thread of CARE. I care about my children and hence I will continue this marriage. Every marriage that succeeds moves from love to care and from care stems compassion and no expectations.

How do we undo the damage... Well, you have to start caring about others, that means don't think of others as outsiders think of them as your fellow humans. Spend more time listening and having conversations with people you call colleagues or acquaintances.

I am just sharing my views as I feel it makes logical sense ...you can choose to disagree with me... but at least read the article once with an open mind before forming an opinion.

P.S

Wise men say only fools rush in

But I can't help falling in love with you

Shall I stay?

Would it be a sin

If I can't help falling in love with you

Take my hand, take my whole life too

For I can't help falling in love with you

(Lyrics taken from Can't help falling in love ~Elvis Presley)

Sunday, 2 December 2018

Like a moth to a flame

Like a moth to a flame

"Human beings are the stupidest creatures, they run towards danger, like a moth to a flame" a tech wiz who heads Artificial Intelligence (AI) and Automation said this while sharing his

vision of the digital future. That's just one of the many statements he made which I will share along the article.

HR and technology conferences have this common trend propogated by atleast a dozen consultants and heads alike, "Half of the working population will be replaced by Automation by 2030".

Artificial Intelligence

Everywhere those in power are talking about how AI will be the future and improve everything, make us a smarter planet & an efficient planet.The Future envisioned by these leaders to summarize, translates to the death of the middleman who adds no value whatsoever, but made commissions being the link between manufacturers and consumers, employers and employees. Consider our jobs in Human Resources, Marketing, Sales, Customer Service, Administration... automated.

Yes, we are less efficient than machines, we get tired, we need rest, we are motivated by emotions that determine how productive we are going to be on a given day. But are we turning obsolete? after decades of turning machines obsolete and do the machines have the final laugh. Over a period of time, we have come to accept this as our future. It makes me very very angry how humans have written off humans as a liability in the digital future.

The underlying threat

The tech wiz shared a second statement which frankly scared the shit out of me, which goes like this, "Have you seen God and how do you know he exists, God is just a preferred answer we have due to years of conditioning and a preferred answer is a convenient truth". It should scare you as someone who does not believe in a higher power, does not have a conscience or affinity to human beings is writing our future as we speak. He won't bat an eyelid while laying off jobs or shed a tear for the unfortunate who don't make it.

We have been warned by Hollywood that AI if given a free hand will rule humans. A joke in one of the AI movies was as follows. An AI robot walks into a bar and asks for some drinks, The bartender says we don't serve your kind here The AI replies, "In time you will!"

Turing Test

The Turing test, developed by Alan Turing in 1950, is a test of a machine's ability to exhibit intelligent behavior equivalent to, or indistinguishable from, that of a human. In short, he says when a human interacts with an AI but does not realize it to be one, that's when AI has truly arrived. The difference between us and AI is a just eroding human conscience. That's all that's left. Most of us already feel that machines are more trustworthy than fellow beings with whom we share the same blood and tears.

The tech wiz did reply to a question I asked about Automation and layoffs saying "There is a possibility that in the future due to Automation, people may lose their jobs and that may result in anarchy where people loot people for food to survive armed with a knife in their hands"

I close with the same statement the tech wiz said and I quote "Human beings are the stupidest creatures, they run towards danger, like a moth to a flame" my retort being "Is AI and Automation our flame".

Saturday, 10 November 2018

Your Wish is my Command!

Aladdin

Aladdin*1| The story of Aladin is just captivating. A young teenage boy, abject to poverty, by chance finds a lamp that houses a blue genie. The Genie or Jinn then grants the boy three wishes and with every wish, Aladdin makes, the Genie responds "Your wish is my command" and then voila, we see things magically appear out of thin air. Fascinating! |Mahabharata| The fourth dimension is one of my favorite topic of discussion and it has been lingering in my head, ever since I saw an episode of The Mahabharata wherein Vishwakarma*2 created the city of Indraprastha out of thin air just for the Pandava Princes. |The Secret*3| Then it resurfaced but this time, under a disguise in the book "The Secret by Rhonda Byrne" as the law of attraction.| The Alchemist*4 | The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho states the same message "And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.". | Om Shanti Om*5| For Bollywood buffs, it was uttered by Shahrukh Khan in his film Om Shanti Om "Agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaaho to puri kayanat usey tumse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai.".

Delayed Gratification
We all have some vague experience of using this power of attraction when we needed something with utmost sincerity. Though the manifestation of the need could have taken months to a few years, as a result of which you must have not realized that you actually got what you wished for. Yes, I know there is a delay and so hence we think ahh it's not working and stop using the power. I say, "Thank God" for delayed gratification.

What the book The Secret*3 does not tell you is the dangers associated with using this power. We are third-dimensional beings meddling with a half knowledge about the fourth dimension. What does this even mean, well the reason we continue to remain in the third dimension, is solely due to our inabilities to control our thoughts, feelings and emotions. The fourth dimension is a magical place where the time delay between what you think you feel or you wish to actions is zero.

Jedi

Star Wars*6
On this note, I like Star Wars as it is the only movie series that shows us how we should prepare ourselves in order to gain mastery (become a JEDI) over this FORCE (the fourth dimension). If you fail to do so then, you are susceptible to join the dark side. To interpret, it means if you don't control your emotions when you are in stressful times, it would manifest immediately. How many times, we have innocently sworn in the heat of an argument "Go die" out of frustration only to apologize to the person when our temper calms down. In Star Wars, A "Jedi" is a person who has attained a higher consciousness and is capable to utilising the force - for good.

We stopped believing in ourselves.
Walt Disney*7 knew this, and explained it through lots of mass media & entertainment characters like Alladin, Pinocchio, Cinderella etc and wowed us with glimpses of this magical fourth dimension but manipulated one crucial fact, you need a genie/jinn*8 or a fairy or a fairy godmother to fulfill it.

We responded by pursuing the same and found that fairy or jinn in "technology". The technology boom seen currently is the external intermediary(fairy godmother) that will give us instant, on-demand gratification.

Intermediaries, we just are in love with them. They make our lives easier
Religion did the very same thing, you need to pray to God (external entity) to fulfill your wishes. It conditioned us is a way that made us incapable of accessing this power that lies within us and also hid a very vital fact, that God lies within us.This is sad, human beings love intermediaries right from clocks to tell time, alarms to wake us up, cell phones to talk, shoes to walk, technology to keep us distracted through the mundane or social media to make us feel a million bucks.

Thoth, The Immortal Atlantean

Is the fourth dimension real?
A man called Hermes Trismegistus*9 in Greek mythology or Thoth*10 in Egyptian mythology found a cave in the center of the earth and he could not understand how whatever he thought about, manifested into reality there and then. He was afraid, but over a period of time figured out a way, to control his thought and feelings (especially his fears) before he made a descent into the cave. Thoth later built a mighty pyramid*11 to cover this cave at Giza so that only the initiated can enter and discover the magical fourth dimension. He mentored 300 individuals (almost all women), to ascend to the fourth dimension and gained immortality*12.

How do we access this fourth dimension
The secret to the fourth dimension is a doorway embedded in the right hemisphere of your brain, but to access that door, you first have to embark on a journey on unconsciously controlling your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. This requires heightened self-awareness that we are one with the universe, to simplify we are all connected by something called collective consciousness. It means we have to detach ourselves from situations and view things without the influence of filters like caste, Creed, religion, region, and form which makes you feel superior to a fellow human being. Once you, complete this journey, you reach the fourth dimension or Shambhala*13, the mythical world tucked away in some peak of your minds Everest.

We are heading towards the fourth dimension, the choice is yours - to control your mind or be controlled by technology.

Unconditional Acceptance

The recent LGBTQ*14 revolution is forcing many of us, in society to be consciously open to accepting them as a part of society. This means a lot of us who have

    A) openly showered our displeasure (unconscious bias)
    B) have to contain it within (conscious inability),
    C) very soon in some time this will turn into acceptance (conscious openness) and
    D) at last, we would view them as human beings (unconscious openness).

This journey of purification is essential in all aspects of your life to become a fourth dimensional being. It means being non judgmental, having unconscious control over what you want to think or not, what you want to feel or not and what you want to say or not. It is accepting people beyond your lenses of religion, case, creed and values. Yes Values, you may say a person is but his or her values, well I say strip down your values and you will notice that we are much more accepting of each other as humans, the one supreme value becomes our way of life.

My view:

I see the world divided, on one side - a quest to gain technological power to satisfy our, on demand needs for instant gratification and on the other hand - a journey has started to control and change our thoughts conditioned by society and its values. I tell you the latter is the solution to all our problems as a human race, the former will set you back in dimensional time and space.

Conclusion:
So as the human race, we stand here on this continuum - imagine a line, the extreme left of that line, is the third dimension and the extreme right end of that line is the fourth dimension.

Those of us who don't understand or believe the fourth dimension or prefer using the left hemisphere of the brain (ones who are technology dependent, over expressive with respect to their urges and intolerance on social media) are to the left,
Then those who have partial understanding of it but are vulnerable to the dark side as they cannot control their thoughts of anger or revenge (the gifted right brain lot) are in the centre
Then those handful who have mastered complete control over themselves and utilise it to amaze the others (the miracle workers who are trying to make the world a better place - one race - human beings) are on the right.